To many people, public speaking is their No. 1 fear. Getting up in front of an audience can make your blood pressure go up and your palms sweat. Why is this?
The fear is self-induced. Being in the spotlight increases your exposure which can increase your feelings of being judged badly, humiliated, or not as good as someone else. It’s a mind game, a perception that can be changed to further your career aspirations. According to Matthew Cossolotto, author of HabitForce and president of Ovation International which provides speechwriting and coaching services, the first secret to lowering the public speaking terror is to eliminate the public factor.
“Speaking in front of an audience requires the same ability as speaking to your best friend, your co-worker, or your spouse,” Cossolotto says. “Let’s not call it public speaking. Let’s call it something else. How about just plain old speaking. Most people can handle that.
“After all, speaking is something we all do quite comfortably and effortlessly every day. We talk with our friends and loved ones all the time without experiencing shortness of breath or a racing heartbeat.”
Speaking is a natural act for most human beings, try getting some to stop. But putting the “public” label on a certain kind of speaking is the heart of the problem, according to Cossolotto. “As soon as you call it public speaking you’re fighting an uphill battle. The infamous P-word raises unrealistic expectations, increases stress, and generally elevates the terror alert to dangerously high levels.”
Keep it conversational
Cossolotto says taking the public concept out of the picture reduces the stress and the threat factor. Speaking to audiences with the same ease as conversing with friends is the approach he recommends.
Companies and organizations such as Dale Carnegie Training and Toastmasters recommend this too. Dale Carnegie Training, based on the writing of Dale Carnegie, offers training programs to increase effective communication and presentation skills along with management courses. Toastmasters is an organization that meets regularly to enable people to practice and develop speaking skills. Even Bill O’Brien credits Toastmasters for making him a better speaker.
Focus on one person
By speaking to one person in the audience you can keep yourself in a conversational mode. One-on-one eye contact with an individual member of the audience will make you a more comfortable and effective speaker (See sidebars.). The real you is evident, not a nervous, detached, stressed-out version of you.
The other side of this is taking the focus off yourself. Focus on your audience, how they’re responding to your message, what they’re wearing, and not on how nervous you are.
Supportive audience
Realize that the audience wants you to succeed. They want you to be comfortable, informative, entertaining, and authentic. And you’ll perform much better if you believe the audience supports you.
Cossolotto recommends a three-step process to shift from stage fright to stage delight called the Three Rs: recognize, reject, and replace. Recognize the fear by acknowledging that it exists. Reject the fear by repeating to yourself that there is no such thing as public speaking. And replace fright with delight by shifting your focus from being self-conscious to being support and connection conscious.
“Knowing that the audience supports you allows the real you to show up,” he says. “The two go hand-in-hand. Self-consciousness stifles joy and delight and is the underlying cause that generates fear and anxiety.”
Practice, practice, practice
Do yourself, your career, and your audiences a favor. Enhance your presentation skills by practicing. Join Toastmasters or volunteer to speak at a school or training seminar. It will give you the opportunity to practice your skills and share your knowledge and enthusiasm for aviation. And it will build your self-confidence which will improve your career advancement.
10 Tips For Successful Public Speaking
Feeling some nervousness before giving a speech is natural and healthy. It shows you care about doing well. But, too much nervousness can be detrimental. Here’s how you can control your nervousness and make effective, memorable presentations:
- Know the room. Be familiar with the place in which you will speak. Arrive early, walk around the speaking area and practice using the microphone and any visual aids.
- Know the audience. Greet some of the audience as they arrive. It’s easier to speak to a group of friends than to a group of strangers.
- Know your material. If you’re not familiar with your material or are uncomfortable with it, your nervousness will increase. Practice your speech and revise it if necessary.
- Relax. Ease tension by doing exercises.
- Visualize yourself giving your speech. Imagine yourself speaking, your voice loud, clear, and assured. When you visualize yourself as successful, you will be successful.
- Realize that people want you to succeed. Audiences want you to be interesting, stimulating, informative, and entertaining. They don’t want you to fail.
- Don’t apologize. If you mention your nervousness or apologize for any problems you think you have with your speech, you may be calling the audience’s attention to something they hadn’t noticed. Keep silent.
- Concentrate on the message — not the medium. Focus your attention away from your own anxieties, and outwardly toward your message and your audience. Your nervousness will dissipate.
- Turn nervousness into positive energy. Harness your nervous energy and transform it into vitality and enthusiasm.
- Gain experience. Experience builds confidence, which is the key to effective speaking. A Toastmasters club can provide the experience you need.
- Toastmasters International
Delivering the Talk
Dale Carnegie offers training that can help in your efforts to further your career. In The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking, Carnegie offers pointers for public speaking.
- Crash through your shell of self-consciousness. Be natural.
- Don’t try to imitate others — be yourself. It is not so much just what you say as how you say it.
- Converse with your audience. Speak to an audience as you would in a chat but with greater force or energy.
- Put your heart into your speaking. When under the influence of feelings, your real self comes to the surface. Barriers are down and action and speech are spontaneous and natural.
- Practice making your voice strong and flexible. Evaluate yourself in terms of volume, pitch variation, and pace.
— The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking, Dale Carnegie
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